许久以前去了吴娟瑜老师的讲座,当时的大部份内容已经忘了。。。只是一直还记得她所讲的“反应和回应”。一直到今天还是无法做到完美的回应,真是惭愧!终日都徘徊在两者间。
There was long time ago attended a seminar and still remember that the teacher told about "React and Response". I feel shame that I still cannot perfectly response till now and always move in between them... sigh!
话说回到家里,老婆一句“喂!你可以顾一下身体吗?你看那个肚子越来越大。”
(夸张了。。。我没有很肥。真的没有很肥。。。。而且这是举例,不是说我自己)
如果是反应。。。当然是满肚子火!“你就很好吗?不去照一下镜子!”
接下来就是可想而知的不欢而散。。。
如果是回应。。。把火往肚里吞一吞。“你总是那么漂亮!不如你教一教我。。。”
接下来就是一场儿童不宜的。。。
The story said I back to home and wife shout, "Wei! can't you look after your body? you see your big stomach?"
(A bit over... I not very fat actually, really.... and this is just an example, not talking about myself)
If this is React... of course my anger comes immediately, "You think you so gorgeous? Go and look yourself in mirror la!"
Then it becomes a disaster....
if this is Response... "You always look wonderful! Why don't you teach me..."
Then it becomes a 18SX romance....
聪明的你,当然能够一下子就了解这简单的道理 = 同一件事用不同的方法就会有不同的结果。你要有好下场吗?当然就要加入好的元素啦。
As smart as you, I sure you immediately understand this simple theory = Different method to handle situation will have different result. If you want nice ending then better do something nice.
最大的问题就是讲就天下无敌、做就无能为力。所以,当你要反应时。。。你怎样变成回应?还是你根本就不在乎?哈哈。
The biggest problem is not the above simple theory. It is we always talk loud but lack of action. So, When you want to React... How you change it to Response? or you don't care at all? Haha.