再续北村缘和秘密后花园 Bukchon part 2 & The secret garden (7/11)

这次我们放聪明了，蓝色书包？去你的。变成了青色环保袋。

8景没有走完就好像心里的痛，所以前一晚我累到趴地还是拿了地图研究，信心满满要从4景走到8景。起了个大早，硬硬就是要去北村。。。^_^

We become clever this round, the blue backpack? wtf. now become green bag.

It becomes my pain if i cannot finish the 8 scenes, so I still study the map even though so tired and gain the FULL CONFIDENCE to continue the 4th scene to 8 scene. We wake up early and I insist to go Bukchon... (what a stubborn). 

谁吃谁豆腐？心情漂亮！
Nice mood! how it taste huh?

拿着地图走啊走，4景呢？怎么反而像到了8景？不是信心满满吗？T_T

we walk and walk with the map, erm... where is the 4th scene? how come looks like the 8th scene now? my FULL CONFIDENCE... T_T

算了，我“特地”要从第8个开始看的。哈哈！
Actually I purposely want to start with 8th scene. HA!

学 Learn (2)

那晚大家热情的探讨了华人和文化的话题，有点是引起了我的兴趣，就是身教。
身教就是做为父母长辈必须以身作则来让孩子从中学习，这应该是大家都懂的。有一点倒是挺新鲜的，就是"我们太过专注于如何教了，但是忘了自己也要学习"。
We have a good discussion about the chinese and chinese culture that night and there is one point trigger my interest i.e. teaching by using yourself as an example.
I believe all of us already knew what this is, it means as a parent we should make ourselves as good example to let our children learn from it. And something fresh to me is "We are too focus on how to teach, but forget we ourselves should learn as well"

我回去细细想了一番，从自己努力学习的当中，其实就是对孩子一种最好的身教了。一个不喜欢读书的父母，如何以身作则让孩子喜欢读书；一个不喜欢学习的父母，又如何以身作则让孩子喜欢学习？比如当你努力教了孩子功课之后，却总是把其余时间花在看戏，你认为这个孩子会喜欢功课还是喜欢看戏？可能孩子记戏中的人物还比ABC流利吧。然我们却时常苦恼为何孩子总是没兴趣学习。
I was thinking thoroughly after the discussion, while I am learning hard actually is a very good example for children. If parent don't like to study, how to make an example to make the children fall in love with books. If parent never like to learn, how to make an example to make our children love to learn? It's normally that we will see parents use all spare time to watch TV dramas even though they are very serious when teaching the kids. Do you think the children love the learning or the TV dramas? They must be wondering how come my parent so love about the TV dramas. But we still worry and complaint our children no interest to learn without looking back what we have actually did.  

其实真的如我所想这样吗？我自己的童年又如何呢？小时候，我记得我喜欢拿哥哥的书来读，因为会好奇为何哥哥要读这本书。但是如果哥哥们都是把书乱丢，我还会去拿这些书来读吗？所以我也会拿父亲的书来读，会想要去看到底父亲好好收藏的书有什么好读。（小孩子时会拿长辈做榜样。）读着读着就慢慢看出了趣味，也乐于把书好好收藏。
所以啊，到现在我自己家中都没有电视而书本却是随手可得（当然也有小孩的玩具啦）。我在想那天孩子可以自动自发去拿书来读，我就会很欣慰了。
Is my thoughts correct? how about my own childhood? I remembered I like to read the books from my elder brothers and father, I curious about what they actually read. If they are those kind of simply throw the book away, do you think i will still have such curiosity? Slowly I found my joy within and love to keep my books nicely as what my father did.
That's why my home doesn't have any TV but books are everywhere (of course there are toys around). I am thinking if there is one day my kids took initiative to read the book, I will be very pleased.

所以那晚过后我就想，自己必须做到"活到老，学到老"和"发愤忘食，乐以忘忧，不知老之将至"。希望也好，奢望也好，孩子会去好奇为何父母会这样乐于学习呢？慢慢地培养了自己的学习心。
After that night, I told myself by old chinese advise - "One is never too old to learn" and "Learning till forget to eat, forget trouble and never know you are getting older". Maybe is a fat hope, I wish children will curious why parent have so much joy to learn and indirectly bringing them up.


今天进家门之前，我就心想要花心思好好教一下MZ读书。结果我的MZ表现不错（虽然还是有吵闹要跟大人出去玩和吃糖果），可能也是我的心有转变了而孩子可能也感觉到父亲有点不同。之前都是一直头痛MZ的牛脾气，打骂肯定是行不通了（而且还助长她的火气）。仔细想想是不是因为父亲或长辈打骂时的脾气，变成了她的榜样。把自己放在她的立场，什么样的人是会让自己提不起劲来发脾气和吵闹的？什么样的人是会让自己提起劲去学习的？我想这就是关键了。
Today I told myself must spend a good time to teach my MZ before reach home and it turned out a good result for me (although she still harassing of going out and candy). I wonder it is because I change my heart and she actually feel it. Her hot temper is always my headache, scold and hit can never solve the problem (even make her worse). Think carefully... Could this because we set an bad example for her learn previously? Put myself into her shoes, what kind of person will turn down my hot temper? what kind of person will encourage my initiative to learn? I believe this is the KEY!

北村8景（上）Bukchon 8 scenes (1st part) (6/11)

我并不是故意要分上和下集的，话说。。。
I am not purpose divide it to 1st & 2nd part, believe me...

北村位于景福宫和昌德宫之间，有人称三清洞、嘉会洞、安国洞，其实都是在北村里面的。点这里看详细资料，很有用的网站喔（还可以预约GPS，很好用也不怕迷路）。这里是古时候高官们住的地方，所以有很多韩屋在这里。很难想象在市区里会有这么一个远离尘嚣的地方。这个地方超容易找的，就在安国站出来的北方（废话，如果不在北方难道在南方吗？），应该是2号出口吧。哈哈。

Bukchon (north village) located between GyeongBok palace & CheongDeok palace. People might call it different name but all are inside Bukchon. (I pre-book a GPS so I won't get lost) This was once a place stay lot of ancient government officer and therefore lot of Hanok (korea tradition house) are here. It is amazing that Seoul has such a peaceful and nice place in town area. How to reach here? you just take MRT and come out Anguk station then walk toward north (of course la, if not walk towards south meh), Should be Exit 2.

韩屋有什么好吸引的？看屋子也爽吗？这就好像问我马六甲的娘惹屋好看吗？更厉害的是，韩剧偶像李民浩就是在这里拍“个人趣向”的。而且让我们误打误闯找到了相棝材，大笑四声～～哈哈哈哈！！！其实从逛了北村后，我就深深感觉到韩国对文化历史遗产的保护和用心是绝对值得钦佩的。不只是民间的努力，政府的努力也是很重要的。这让我有了一个念头，等我回来后，用背包客的方式去玩一下我国的世界遗产槟城和马六甲。只有这样才有可能感觉到我们政府和民间的努力到底怎样了。。。我在去过好些国家的历史古迹后，都会深叹他们爱护的那份用心，我也很想体会一下我们国家的用心。我想你应该不会再觉得花大半天去看屋子到底值不值得了吧？
Why Hanok attract me? looking people's house also shiok meh? This like asking me whether nyonya house in melaka nice to see. The drama "personal taste" also shot here (acted by Lee Min Ho) and we coincidently found that Hanok, give me 5!! After visit Bukchon, I feel so touch that Korean respect and love their heritage so much. And this gives me an idea, maybe next time I will use the backpacker method to visit our own world heritage - penang & melaka. Only this way, we can feel that what effort had been done on our heritage.
By now, I don't think you will still ask me whether worth to visit Hanok or not. 

一片殷红，看呆了。
Shiok, RED!

学 Learn (1)

今天去了敬学书院后起了一个念头。如果没把听到的分享出去，岂不是不关心别人？
从一开始以为是一个学中文的地方，到现在觉得是一个学做人的地方，真是一乐。
I just have an idea after coming back from Jin Xue School. If I don't share whatever I listen, am I offend the "sharing is caring"?
I was thinking this is a school to learn chinese and until now I feel that this is the school to learn how to be mankind.


这是其中一句，蛮有道理的。
The following quote is quite meaningful.


君子乐得其道，小人乐得其欲；以道制欲， 则乐而不乱；以欲忘道，则惑而不乐。
Wise man likes tao, normal human likes desire. if Tao controls desire then your enjoyment is wonderful. If you chasing desire but forget Tao, then you confuse and  joy will gone.


你看到了什么？
What you think?

成均馆绯闻 Sungkyunkwan Scandal

到了韩国之后，当然不会放过看他们的电视节目。失望啊。转来转去没有香艳镜头、只有一大堆的哟哟、米达米达，也不知在讲么。只是每一次都会看到一齣古装戏，也不是什么帅哥，切！我们也只是任由电视开着，至少房间不会那么静。哪里知道这个古装戏，晚上播、早上播，别台也在播。看了几天我真是忍不住了，说随便看别台也好，总之不看这个。哇！哪里知道我太太除了开始下载来看、还要开着电视看（虽然一点都听不懂）。她追戏之快。。。再加上我姐的推荐。

When we reach Korea, of course we won't skip to watch their TV show. Disappointment! There is no any sexy scene, only bunch of "yoyo, mida mida", don't even know what they talking about. There is always one ancient costume drama, the guy is not that handsome, sigh. We just let the TV on, at least the room won't be so quiet. Who knows this drama, shown at night, shown at morning, even shown at other channel. I really cannot take it after few days, and switch to other TV show as long as not this drama. The best thing is my wife start to download it and request to switch the TV channel to this show (although she didn't know a single word). The speed she finish this drama.... and even my sis recommend it.

这就是成均馆绯闻了。
Yes, This is Sungkyunkwan Scandal.

我这个人就是有一个毛病，就是会好奇为什么别人会喜欢呢？虽然我可能一开始并不喜欢。成均馆绯闻还是值得一看的，也是值得喜欢的。
I have one shortcoming, curious why people will like this or love that. although I didn't like it at first sight. Sungkyunkwan Scandal is worth to watch and worth to be loved.

”如果退让一次，就会有第二次，这之后为了掩盖之前杂乱无章的脚步，让你忘了一开始要走的方向。“
If you ever withdraw once, it will have second time, because of cover up the previous mistake, you forget where you actually want to go at first.
”我能给的不是饶恕的心，而是身为女人情人的心。”
I can't give you the heart of forgiveness but the heart of lover as a woman.
“我要的并不是罪人的心，而是情人的心。”
I don't ever want a heart of sin, I only want your love.
“女人是不必研究学问的，但是学问不是为了百姓吗？学问和人生是一样的”
There is no need for ladies to learn knowledge, but doesn't knowledge is for all people? Learning and Life is the same.

我想，这样的对白并不是随随便便写得出来吧。不经一番历练又从何感触呢？
你说呢？
I think, this kind of dialog cannot be written simply. If you never experience the toughness and how can you have such feelings?
What you say?

韩国苹果痴 Mad about apple in korea

在韩国我还以为他们能够一直坚持己道，哪里知道原来他们也被苹果攻陷了。此苹果非彼苹果，乃苹果电话也。S牌和L牌电话必需打起十二分精神了。
I always thought that Korean can insist their way, but still conquer by apple. This apple is not that apple, is Apple phone. I think S brand and L brand should worry now.

从地铁、马路边、餐馆、百货商场，到处都是苹果。他们疯狂的程度除了各种花俏的苹果皮以外，还开发出各种苹果垫、苹果耳机、苹果贴纸、苹果纹身等等。正当我跟太太埋怨为何没有黑莓时，就看见一个女生手里拿着，这也是我十天里唯一见过的一台。我想她一定很寂寞，因为都没有人可以扫描她。。。o_O （在黑莓世界里，最屌的功能。）
Apple is everywhere from Metro train, road side, restaurant and shopping mall. Their level of crazy is besides mass choice of apple skin, they also invent apple stand, apple earpiece, apple sticker, apple tatoo... While I am complaining how come I didn't see a blackberry, immediately we spot a girl is playing it, this is the only unit we seen during our 10 days here. I believe she feel very lonely because no one can scan her... o_O
(The amazing function in the BB world)

我们大马的电话是可以用的，但是记得开3G (2G/GSM 是不行的)。我有租了一个电话，在三天前就可以拿到号码了，厉害吧！虽然没什么用到，我也是很努力的学会了韩文键盘的电话。十天的费用是22000Won左右。
这是预约的网站。我是订了Show的。
Our phone "imported" from malaysia can still be used but make sure you on the 3G (2G/GSM doesn't work here anymore). I actually rent a phone and I get the number even 3 days before I depart to korea, shit. I learnt hard to familiar with the korea keypad although I didn't really use it to call, it costs me around 22,000Won.
This is the website to prebook and I choose Show.

如果你有需要求助，请在任何时候拨打旅游热线02-1330。免费的喔！
If you require any assistance, please dial the free tourist hotline 02-1330 anytime!

Jongnowon Motel和初邂秋枫 First glance of autumn (6/11)

在我的背包游里，对住宿的要求向来不高，只要环境整洁和价钱廉宜就可以。

这一次准备得匆忙在最后一个星期才开始定，很多酒店都满了。在绝望时，只有这一间回复我，哈哈！在Innostel的官网里有这一间Motel，Innostel是韩国政府认可的酒店。不过我并不是从官网里面定，而是直接去Jongnowon Motel的网站预订，价格好像比较便宜。一晚38，000Won，如果5天以上还有5%折扣。Banana Seoul backpacker hostel 就在隔壁而已。

建议第一次去韩国还是预订酒店比较好，因为一般上韩国人的英语有限。就像在汗蒸幕遇到的鸡蛋男，搞了大半天也不知道Egg是什么。

I never have high demand of hotel quality as long as clean and cheap will do. 

This trip is so rush that i only book my hotel in last minute, and lot of hotels are fully booked. In the time I almost feel desperate, only this motel reply my email. haha! This is a government recognized motel in Innostel website. I didn't book it through Innostel website, instead I book from its official Jongnowon website and it seems cheaper. 38000Won per night (double room), and discount 5% if stay more than 5 days. Another banana seoul backpacker hostel just next door only. 

I recommend pre-book hotel is better if this is your first time, because korean's english is so limited. Just like the Egg guy we met in sauna, he doesn't know what "egg" is... 

哈，怕别人不知是Innostel的。
ha, scare people don't know innostel.

韩风起--韩国观光公社 【一天】 和少女时代 "One Day" and Girls generation

韩国的旅游局真有意思，利用众巨星来拍片。偶像效应发挥到这种境界真是无人可比。
The tourism board in korea is damn creative to use star for promotion video. The country can use idol to this level, salute.




如果看不见【一天】，请点击这里。
If you cannot see "one day", click here.

现在当红的少女时代。歌曲Gee更是占据排行榜多日。
The famous now in Korea - girls generation. The song "Gee" is so much hot.

韩国当红的少女时代(Girl Generation)，在韩国拍的。
shot in korea.

浅谈首尔地铁 Brief Seoul Metro System

首尔地铁系统之庞大，绝对是台湾和新加坡不能比的。（我没说本国，因为我们只有轻快铁，却没有真正的地铁。我也不知道别的国家如何。）从1号线到9号线，外加铁路、国铁等等，其中转换站之多真可谓叹为观止。虽然是如此错综复杂，我相信身为背包客的我们在用了几次后一定是易如反掌的。基本上，你必须知道你要前往的转换站（有颜色和号码可认，千万别去认那圆方文字。）和方向（方向通常以最后一张为准）。我们就试过走到了相反方向的月台（以为看颜色就可以了），结果要多走十分钟才去到对面的月台，累！
The Seoul Metro train system is so big that singapore and taiwan cannot compete. (I didn't mention our country because we only have LIGHT train but not the real metro train. of course i also dunno whether other country maybe bigger) From line 1 to line 9, plus railway, etc and the quantity of interchange is awesome. Although it is so complicated, I believe you can handle after few trips. Basically, you need to know the destination (you can memorize the color and number but never the square round character) and direction (normally will show you the last stop). We tried walk to the opposite side of platform (tot only see the color will do) and it took us more than 10 minutes to go to the right platform, TIRED!!

首尔市的所有主要旅游景点，一般只要单程1000Won，非常便宜。我们没去买T-Money，好像抵押就要7500Won了，而且没得拿回。除非你是长住在首尔才值得。
很多旅游书都写了景点/餐馆的地铁出口站，这是因为不同出口的相距可以蛮远的，韩国是有很多地下街的（其中最出名的就是会贤地下街）。不过其实也不需要死背强记的，你只需要知道地铁站名和大概位置，参考一下每个站的地图板就可以了。
The Main attraction place in seoul can reach by Metro train, normally it will cost you 1000Won, quite cheap. We didn't buy T-Money,  I heard you need to put 7500 non-refund deposit. It worth only you stay long in seoul.
Manny travel book mentiond the Exit number for attraction or restaurant, this is because it can be quite distance for different Exit. Korea also has lot of underground shopping street (The famous one is hyeohyeong shopping street). But you no really need to memorize it, you just got to remember the name of train station and location of the place, then you refer the map in every station.

我个人觉得找餐馆是最难的，几乎本地餐馆都只有圆圆方方的招牌，外面看进去也不知道什么东东。在明洞找全州中央饭馆就找到迷路兼脚残，景福宫附近的土俗村参鸡汤也是一开始就走错路。最后就是，我觉得韩国人超爱走路的，到处都是楼梯，如果你是拿着一大堆行李，我看你死没。。哈哈。而且不论什么地方，都很少椅子让人休息（我想本国可以骄傲一下了，我们的椅子绝对多过人家）。
Personally I found looking for restaurant based on book is most difficult, almost all local restaurant only contains round-square character, you won't know it from outside. We tried to look for CheongZhou restaurant in Myeong-dong and get lost and walk till legs broken, The one famous ginseng chicken soup nearby GyeongBok palace also took us many time. Lastly I feel that korean really love walking, staircase everywhere. If you walking with your big bunch of luggage, I not sure whether you still alive after that.. haha. No matter where, you hardly see the chair for resting. (I think our country can be proud now, our chair is definitely more than them)

地铁站的储物箱，红色是有人用了，蓝色是空的。
The locker in train station. Red means occupied, blue means free.

男汗蒸幕之谜 The myth of men's sauna (5/11)

经过了黎泰院迷路之难，可以一尝传说中的韩国汗蒸幕，算是值回票价。所谓汗蒸幕就是韩国传统的桑拿，里面有多间特别的桑拿房，比如用松木、粗盐、木炭、冰窟等等。这在大马是看不见的，据说每一种都有特别功效啦。

After we survive from the lost in Itaewon, Finally we can taste the legend of korea sauna. The so called korea sauna, have many special function sauna room inside e.g. pine wood, salt, charcoal, ice, etc. I can never seen all these here.

这间黎泰院Land是在阶梯上面的（如何到达参考前篇），都已经来回走到脚断了，还要爬这个几十级的阶梯，真是好样#$#@$#!! (后来我才知道韩国就是阶梯多）。

This Itaewon Land SPA is just on top of the stairs (Refer previous post for how to get here), our legs are already broken and still need to climb like batu cave, this is really "superb". (Later we found out korean really like to walk)

需要注意的是Locker只能装进一个大的背包（50Litre）和你的外套衣服，如果你是用那种硬箱的，请寄放在别的地方比如地铁站的Locker或你的酒店里。

Please aware that the size of locker can only contains 1 large 50litre backpack and your jacket. If you are using those big hardcover luggage case, please put it to other places e.g. your hotel or locker in metro train station.

柜台的大叔英文还可以，可是食堂里的男生连鸡蛋的英文都不懂，真是欲哭无泪。

如果你是在6pm-6am入场，费用是8000Won一个人。如果6am-6pm则是6000Won。使用时间是24小时，超过的话就另外加钱。给了钱后，大叔就会给你一个号码去寄放鞋子和拿钥匙。这个钥匙是绑在手腕或脚裸的，里面其他花费是要用这个钥匙的（禁止现金交易），出来时还要结多一次账。

The English of uncle in reception still ok but the young guy in cafeteria don't even understand "egg", my goodness!

If you enter between 6pm to 6am, the fee is 8000won/pax. If you enter between 6am to 6pm then the charge is 6000won/pax. You can then use it for 24 hours, Extra charge only incur after 24 hours. After you paid the entry fee, the uncle will give you a number to keep your shoes and take the digital key. This key you should take together with you because this is to record your spent inside (no cash transaction), you need to pay again when come out.

这是付了钱后，去寄放鞋子和拿电子钥匙的。
this is the place to keep your shoes and collect your key.

这是男生的入口，在柜台右边。女生的在左边。
This is man's entrance, on your right. woman is on the left.

很多人都分享了女生用汗蒸幕的经验，可是奇怪就是找不到男生的。所以奇怪的问题就会出现在论坛中。
1. 女生有阿朱妈做搓澡，男生是不是大叔做搓澡？（我的天，大叔？！）
2. 需要穿底裤吗？女生就会问需要穿内衣吗？

There are many girls share the experience of using sauna, but just cannot find guys. And many weird question appear in the forum.
1. Girl has the Auntie to do full body massage (naked), then means guy massage by uncle? (OMG, uncle??!)
2. need to wear underwear? girl may ask need to wear bra?

飞去这个圆圆方方的国度 Fly to the country of round round square (5/11)

下午二时的飞机，只花了6个小时就到了首尔。这次的目标就是韩国，一个制造偶像的国家，看看身边多少痴心的粉丝就知道了。如果这是早班飞机就好了，不会浪费了一天的时间，希望A牌航空可以改进一下。就因为这样，以我物尽其用的性格，当然也不会想浪费这一晚上的时间。所以汗蒸幕就成了我们的第一个目的地，也是过夜的地方。哈哈哈！又可以打发时间，又可以省钱，又可以体验韩国所谓的传统桑拿。飞机上对着电脑看戏的时间还多过睡觉，搞定了几集公主嫁到，我太太又趁我睡觉时看了几集义海豪情。。。T_T

2PM flight and we only use 6 hours to reach seoul. This time our target is Korea, A country which produce super idols, just look the fans surround and you will know. It should be a morning flight so that I won't waste one day time, I hope the Brand A company can improve this. Due to this and my ying jing character, of course i don't wish to waste the first night in seoul. That's why korea spa become our first destination and also "hotel". hahaha! A place can spend your time, can save money, and also try the so called traditional Spa. We were facing the laptop for HK drama more than sleeping, settle few episode of "gong zhu ga dou". And my wife settle few more episode of "yi hoi hou chen" while I was sleeping... T_T

这是日落，可是为什么我每次都坐在飞机翼旁？！
Sunset, but why I always sit beside the wing >_<

晚上九点就提早到达了，怎么驾飞机也可超速的？机长报告了天气，不错，才14度。一下飞机就马上看见了一个美女工作人员，难道这真是一个美女帅哥的桃花源？太太已经把金贤重、JYJ、SS501的名字念成了大悲咒一样，是想要超度我吗？呵呵。
We reached about 9PM, how come the airplane can overspeed meh? the pilot said the weather is only 14 Celsius degree, not bad. I immediately spot a pretty crew, this really a heaven full of pretty and handsome??

第一个出现的韩国字，又圆又方。
The first round and square character.

9天8夜 9 Days 8 Nights

亲爱的兄弟姐妹，
Dear Brothers/Sisters,

上次的三天两夜，我一直铭记於心。
I always keep the previous "3D2N" in my heart deeply.

希望下个星期对你们都是好的日子。有困难也能迎刃而解。
Hope next week is a good week/days for all of you. Any problem also can be resolved.

珍重。请勿挂念过甚。搞不好我还能天天写Blog，你们也能天天写评（如果韩国的网络不像本国一样。）^_^
Take care, please dun miss too much (but miss a bit la). Maybe I can write blog everyday and you can comment everyday as usual? (if Korea internet not learnt from here) ^_^

终于完成韩国的行程计划 Fuyoo! finally completed the seoul-fun itinerary

这次在麦记做了这个42页的行程，真的是做工都没有这么勤劳。哈哈！！
星期五就要飞去首尔了。。。兴奋中。

This time I completed this 42 pages itinerary in McD, do work also not so hardworking.. haha!!
I am flying to seoul, korea this friday... exciting.

很想和大家分享。。。希望能帮到要去的人。
Share my itinerary here.

四伯走了。。。

拖了好几天才有一点空写，那天父亲悄来了一个消息-10月27日四伯万传走了。电话另一头的声音有些颤抖，可我也不知该说些什么。只是听着父亲琐碎地说着处理的事情。四伯的女儿从云南回来办理后事、骨灰也安葬了。
挂了电话后，我努力回想四伯留在我生命里的痕迹，却是一片空白。。。费劲力气也只有断断续续的一些片段。为什么这样呢？太太也问我为什么这样？我来自美满的家庭，却好像自小就没什么和父亲那边的堂兄弟姐妹来往（除了三伯、大姑、小姑、七叔、小叔）。我祖父母还在时已经是这样了。为什么手足亲情到了父辈会好像一片迷茫？或者是我不知道？看回来，我这一辈又如何？隐约也是这个样子。。。大家各居一方、各有各忙。总是想忙完了再说吧，没关系的。可是一日过一日、一年过一年。。。几时才会忙完呢？难道要等到七、八十岁才来做？
之前也看得出三伯和小叔有尽些努力让我们堂兄弟可以联络。父亲也开始说着朋友、亲戚应该有空就联络一下。别好像现在我连这个堂姐也好像没见过面。
我结婚后，太太这边就给了“文化”冲击。我对她家的亲戚还熟过我这边的亲戚，这是一种悲哀吗？还是一种补偿？虽然有时候人多嘴杂是非多，可就是这样一种环境才能朔造出以前大家庭的故事。
父亲的声音为什么颤抖？我还是要多回家看看两老了。